Overheard

This ties in neatly to a chat a friend and I were having today.

A father is sitting at a table with his 10-year old son; the father was on the phone, and judging by the tone of his voice - exasperated - he was talking to his ex-wife.  The conversation was about the summer schedule and when he can get to see his son.  At present he is only seeing his son 4 times a month!

The father is exasperated because the ex cannot seem (or maybe does not want ) to give him a definitive schedule.  He figuratively threw up his hands and said let a parent coordinator/judge sort this out.  At which he adds that it's more money being thrown away.

I felt for this man, he wants to see his son more often, and the ex is not willing to give him that; he told her that people have been telling him that he as the father should be seeing his son more often.  The only thing I did not agree with is the fact that he was having this discussion in front of his son.  Arguments between the two parents should be kept away from the child.  Who knows why she does not want the father to see his son, there could be a million and one reasons why, but I am not talking about this particular situation, but rather on a broader scale.

Whether it was a boy or girl, a father is an important person in a child's life.  Many people tend to think that these men are not, and give all the credit to the mothers.  Don't get me wrong, I am not counting the abusive low-lifes, but the ones who really do care and love their children and want only the best.  For those fathers/dads who really love their children, they provide emotionally and psychologically to a child's upbringing and well being.

I am not discounting a mother's role, but we should not ignore the Dad, either.